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And especially especially if it's about something I've done/said/think/etc. Of course compliments on your physical appearance are nice, but (to me) it hits harder when its a personality attribute or an action I took. Heh, in the past when someone's complimented my looks, I've said "Thanks, I'll let my mom know!" 😆

Isn't that strange? I suppose we (probably subconsciously) assume our loved ones are biased.

We're often told one of the keys to happiness is not needing external validation, and while I do think it's important to not have your value be made or broken on how people who don't know you see you - External validation just feels so dang good.

And - it's something that's so easy to do to spread positive vibes! It only takes a few seconds to pay a stranger a compliment, and it has the possibility to make their day. That's an incredible 'return on investment' 🤭

A stranger paid me a compliment today. It was one of those days where someone randomly says exactly what you needed to hear. Definitely ended my day with a lighter heart.

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Intelligent/observational humor always gets me. But it can be hard to be witty on the spot, especially when you're nervous, so my biggest advice is think of something personal, or something related to what is happening around you at the moment. Woman (well I can only speak for myself) start out assuming what you're saying to us, you've used on other women. But even something personal, I would suggest making sure it's uniquely personal, like instead of saying, "I like your shoes" or whatever say something like "I noticed your shoes have xyz, it reminds me of my sister-in-law, she always xyz" (lol, clearly I know nothing about shoes, but you get the point). Or speak to something happening around you guys, especially if it's funny. But, long story long, saying something that she knows right away you could only have said to her will start you off on a good foot (ha!). Women just want to feel special. 😉