When did you first realize you couldn’t really be yourself as a kid?
As a kid I learned pretty fast to adjust. My mom was young, under pressure, doing her best.
But there wasn’t really space for me to have my own opinion. So I just stopped saying things. Started adapting. And the fucked up part is it worked. I became “easy”. No problems. No conflict.
Now I’m older and I honestly don’t know who I am without adjusting to people.
The weird part is I can fit anywhere. Any group, any vibe, any party. I just read the room and become whatever fits.
Sounds useful — but it doesn’t feel real.
Did anyone else grow up like that? When did you realize it and did you ever actually find yourself after?
Sign up for OddsRabbit
Join communities like /c/lifeunfiltered and never miss posts like this. Every signup donates a meal for a child in need. Learn more
View comments
Comments
It's pretty relatable, specially the part of adapting depending on who you are with. I end up questioning if i am nobody or all my personas in one body. Glad to see I'm not alone in this ❤️
No, you aren’t alone. But usually people feel ashamed even to admit this. God forbid to talk about it. You got this🫶
I think most people are, they just don’t admit it. The difference is some stay there forever and some actually start questioning it.
At some point you realize if you keep adapting to everyone else, you’ll never meet yourself.
Take your time with it, but don’t stay passive either. If you ever wanna talk it through or get a second perspective, I’m here.