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I smoked large quantities of weed frequently from ages 16 - 24 and it was robbing me of my ambition.
Did you notice it at the time or only later when you looked back?
I noticed it once I stopped smoking weed cold turkey, and suddenly things started going much better for me in terms of my motivation. I went back to school, completed my bachelors, and never got lower than an A- in my 2 years after transferring from Community College. This is definitely not a knock on weed since we are all different people. What I did realize was that I was a lazy person during that time in my life, and weed was preventing me from making positive changes for myself.
That’s solid… respect for turning it around like that.
I don’t even think it’s the weed itself — I think it’s more how easy it is to settle into a comfortable state where you’re not really challenged, no pressure, no discomfort… and you slowly stop pushing yourself.
Do you think quitting just removed that comfort, or were you already feeling stuck before that?
I didn’t enjoy my job as a financial advisor anymore, and I would tell myself that as soon as I got home I would fix my resume and start applying for jobs. Well as soon as I got back home I would smoke weed, and I would come to the conclusion that it’s really not that bad at my job and I’m just complaining over nothing. It wasn’t until I stopped smoking weed that I decided to go back to school to get on a new career path.
That loans are a scam. Don't take out any loans when you're younger. After interest, I paid more than twice the amount I borrowed, just so I can go on a vacation in my silly early 20s
Was it worth it in the moment, or did it hit you later when you saw how much you actually paid?
It felt like the right thing to do at the time but it really affected me long term
I feel like a lot of people go through that in their early 20s.
True
Friendships come and go. No need to cling to a friend who no longer can be a friend.
Yes. Some people come into your life for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime.
Yes, true. It's a pity, though, that friendship for a lifetime seems to be a rather rare phenomenon.
Yes, it is. True friendship is rare.
I learned that if you ignore things long enough, they don’t go away — they start affecting parts of your life that were fine before.
Took me way too long to realize that..
What a fun question. For me, I think it's the importance of having a bit of variety in your life.
I've had too many periods in my life where I just lived a very static lifestyle - gaming all day, or working 24/7 etc. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but those times flew by, and I ended up not having any good (or any tbh) memories of those years.
I think we tend to fall into routines, especially as we age, and it makes time feel like it flies. Adding some variety - anything really - to change it up really helps your brain feel like time's "slowed down", and helps create memories.
That actually hit… I’ve had periods like that too, where days just blur together and you don’t even realize how fast time passes until you look back.
Honestly, I barely remember a lot of the time from when my daughter was 0–1 year old… and I wasn’t really present the way I should’ve been. The reason for it really mattered at the time, but you still don’t get that time back.
Do you think people notice it while they’re in it, or only after it’s already gone?
Is it tho? And what are the reasons you believe in that?
This is super true from my experience lol. Or maybe it closer to like average job, well liked > great job, hated